In honor of Mother’s Day, I will be doing a series of posts this week about the two wonderful woman in my life that I have had the privilege to call. “Mom”, and the wisdom they have passed on to me. ~
My Mom, (Grandmother Whitmore), was a very caring and strong person who was focused on raising the five of us to be good, kind and successful people. She worked hard to ensure that we had every opportunity open to us and she believed a key part of that was the friends we had surrounded ourselves with.
Mom’s mantras was, “You are who you hang out with.”
As a kid, it would drive me crazy how much attention she paid to who were in my circle of friends and the constant questions she had for them. “Are you going to college?”, “What are you going to study?”, “Do you have a backup plan?”, “How is school going?” and on, and on, and on. In addition, if she felt someone was going to pull me the wrong direction she would find ways to intervene. As a teenager, this was maddening! I thought she was being unfair, and I fought her on every turn.
And then I grew up……. and I began to understand why she was so focused on who surrounded me. The people around you are so very key to who you develop into as a person. In many ways, more than your parents, teachers and family. They can lift you up or pull you down.
Your friends are the ones you look to in defining your worth and value, as well as being your models for who you should be. Your friends are the ones who will tell you when you hair cut looks stupid, that a boy is wrong for you, push you to live your dreams and pick you up when you fall. They accept you at your worst and celebrate you at your best.
Living Aunt Harriet’s Life rule #1 –“ Do it because it is who you want to be.” is so much easier when you are surrounded by friends who not only support your vision for yourself, but push you to fulfill it. The only reason I have accomplished what I have is because of the friends and family that surround me.
Mom was right. You are who you hang out with.
Thank you for being a pain. I am a better person because of you.
By the way, Grandmother is not alone in this opinion. Some great quotes on Friends –
“You can be the best artist or the best business person, but if you have bad friends you are not going to do anything. You have to have good friends so they give you a different perspective. Perspective is why we are successful.” – WILL.I.AM
“Set your world on fire. Seek those who fan your flames.” – RUMI
“Surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life, touch your heart, and nourish your soul.” – Unknown
“I really do appreciate people who stimulate my creativity and make me think on a deeper level.” – Unknown
“Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.” – Booker T. Washington
“Be with those who help your being.” – RUMI
“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” – Edmund Lee